Adam and Eve after their expulsion from the Garden of Eden and when left to perish without the providence of God. They in order to go through such unfortunate circumstances together might have held each other's hand as friends than anything else. It's the sense of friendship that might have brought the very first two humans of the recorded history closer with the affection. When a newborn baby looks up to his mother, its the friend that he sees in her. Our kindergarten sweetheart was a friend to us. Friendship is the genesis of every relationship.
I think Friendship, unlike any other relationship, is never tainted by expectation and that's what makes it so special and much immune to every human fallibility that plagues our other relationships. Unlike our parents and lovers and siblings, friends don't bind us with the responsibilities. You don't have to make them proud, you don't have to make them smile, you don't even have to be with them all the time to claim their friendship. And best of all, you don't have to pretend of who you are not. There is a complete sense of freedom being around them and as much as frivolous a bonding it might seem but often tales of friendship have outvalued love stories.
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Friends let us share, not without embarrassment but without fear of judgment, our gravest imperfections and the most anguishing instances of falling short of our own ideals and values. A friend is a person before whom we can strip our ideal self in order to reveal the real self, vulnerable and imperfect, and yet trust that it wouldn’t diminish the friend’s admiration and sincere affection for the whole self.
And I think, by rekindling this friendship in our other relationships, we can strengthen them, and save it from falling apart. Seek a friend in your parents. Seek a friend in your lover. Seek a friend in your siblings because friends are forever.
I think Friendship, unlike any other relationship, is never tainted by expectation and that's what makes it so special and much immune to every human fallibility that plagues our other relationships. Unlike our parents and lovers and siblings, friends don't bind us with the responsibilities. You don't have to make them proud, you don't have to make them smile, you don't even have to be with them all the time to claim their friendship. And best of all, you don't have to pretend of who you are not. There is a complete sense of freedom being around them and as much as frivolous a bonding it might seem but often tales of friendship have outvalued love stories.
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Friends let us share, not without embarrassment but without fear of judgment, our gravest imperfections and the most anguishing instances of falling short of our own ideals and values. A friend is a person before whom we can strip our ideal self in order to reveal the real self, vulnerable and imperfect, and yet trust that it wouldn’t diminish the friend’s admiration and sincere affection for the whole self.
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In many instances, it has been said that sometimes a friendship serves as a gateway to a romantic relationship and it sure has many times, but still, a friend and a romantic partner are so very different in many aspects. As Ernest Becker says that our desire to search for a romantic partner stems from our existential dread. We look for a partner, though very much mortal herself, who can give us a fleeting sense of immortality by gracing us with their love. But unlike a lover, with a friend, we don't seek immortality or hope anything that is too ethereal to be true. A friend is simply another human being we seek for who is very much like us. Who won't redeem us of this mortal dread but rather walk with us through it? Who is as odd as us, and when pointed of the oddity by this world, we can look up to our friend and say to this world courageously "you may say I am crazy but I am not the only one."
And I think, by rekindling this friendship in our other relationships, we can strengthen them, and save it from falling apart. Seek a friend in your parents. Seek a friend in your lover. Seek a friend in your siblings because friends are forever.
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